“I don’t know how she does it”
Being stuck at home during quarantine meant wearing pyjamas and watching more Netflix than usual. During one of my sleepless nights I watched an easy comedy (that’s at least what I thought) with Sarah Jessica Parker “I don’t know how she does it”. The plot of the story is pretty easy: a working mum, with kids and a husband, a terrific job and a tight schedule. The movie covers all modern clichés about marriage, women friendships and bias at work: an explosive mix that made me laugh and reflect.
As we all know, Covid-19 forced the majority of us to work remotely. On top of that kids have been locked at home, since schools have been closed for health reasons.
So, to summarise women have been exposed to an enormous stress:
- An unprecedented global Pandemic
- Kids stuck at home with no possibilities to go out
- Sanitary restriction and no help from family or friends
- Smart working
Possibly, the temptation to do everything has been very high: organising the groceries, cleaning the house, sanitising the kids, cooking, working long hours… We tried very hard to be perfect, because that’s what society taught us.
You know you are doing the right thing when you hear people saying “I don’t know how she does it”!
But, to be honest, we should be proud of us even if we don’t do everything perfectly.
Indeed, it is not mandatory to handle everything. Sharing the burden should be at the core of the society.
Yes, I know, the reality I depicted is a very simple one and I am aware not all women face the same kind of problems. But, if – for some unknown reason – you felt a little bit tired during this period of segregation at home or just a little bit frustrated because you realised you do not have the time, the energy (or the willing) to do everything, I want to assure you that “it is ok”.
Not handling everything is perfectly fine!
And maybe, next time you hear someone saying of you “I don’t know how she does it”, think that may be the right time to loosen a little bit.
By Gaia Nina Marano